I wrote this post sometimes ago, but a good friend told me the issues i was writing about were very sensitive and i should give it more thought before i publish it. So i removed it from the blog. I recently sent a printed copy of the article to another friend who said it was good and i should put it back. please comment on this topic.
–If there is one thing i really dread, it’s to be looked down by a fellow citizen or to look inferior in the eyes of men. There is this guy I know, a radio technician in my town, every time this guy cross my path i can’t help but feel pity for him. I don’t know if its pity or mercy i feel for him but all the same, my heart skips a beat. It’s not because of something this guy did, but it all has to do with the woman he married .
It happened sometimes back that, i walk into a room i was hosting a friend from shags and there in my bed was the technician’s wife with my friend. What i show was not the shocking part cos it was not the first time to see people in compromising situation but, later that evening, i passed by the radio guy’s house to collect a car audio he had been working on and i found the guy and his wife fondling on the sofa sharing a plate of food.
That incident has stack with me ever since. I really hate this woman although i did not tell the guy, i completely lost trust in another human being to such a point that i entertained the thought of never having one called by my name.
It is quite humiliating for any man to even think that another man looks at him and see’s a very foolish man and a weak one for that matter. What is even worse is knowing that the other guy is a welcomed guest in his house. I know a few of my work mates who had to deal with very severe cases of depression after discovering that their wife’s had cheated on them with fellow Matatu drivers. Some ended the relationships but even those who hanged on probably because of the children still lead miserable life’s due to the insecurity and lack of trust in their marriage.I know a guy who was honestly dedicated to his family but after the discovery, he become a drunkard who sleeps with even the local known prostitutes. He is still married but i fear he could have exposed himself to HIV.
I had a girl friend once who was all i would have wanted i.e she had a good family back ground, she was well-informed on current affairs and religion, but somewhere in the cause of our relationship, i happened to go through her profile; As much as i tried to console myself that i had no reason to be alarmed, She had too many loose screws and i could not imagine sharing her with some other guy. the incident i had seen with the technician’s wife would not let me find peace with my soul. I had planned to marry her by the end of the year but i ended up leaving her. I still feel guilty about the relationship but i guess guilt is less painful than humiliation.
. It is said that; The measure of a man’s true character is what he would do if he was sure nobody would find out. I guess the measure of a good wife’s character is what she would do if she was 100% positive her husband would never find out.
Every man dreams of a wife he would be proud to show the whole world; but i don’t think there is any who is will to share.